There is an important educational rule in dealing with children, which is (Play with him one seventh then educate him one seventh then be his friend one seventh), dealing with children and their age needs, and knowing that you have the age of his needs is one of the important things, that’s why we will put in your hands today to harvest the fruits of positive education as Allah Almighty commanded us, so must be kind on children to raise them up and teach them about their religion and life stuff so there is no excess or negligence.
Play with him one seventh then educate him one seventh then be his friend one seventh
Praise be to Allah Lord of the Worlds and the prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) and peace be on the most honorable messengers, as he’s a mercy to the world, but after that we put in your hands an important educational rule for dealing with children.
It is known that each age stage in a child’s life has an impact on his behavior, whether on the psychological or mental side, cognitive and behavior and other matters.
All these things affect the child’s behavior, which is called physiological psychology so attention must be paid to the best way for raising up children.
First: Play with him one seventh
Playing here is not about having fun, it’s completely different from having fun to waste time.
Playing means spending a special and wonderful time with child as well as learning a new skill.
Through playing the child learns new moral, psychological and mental skills.
The child’s talents and skills are also discovered by playing with him.
Some games develop the child’s skills and mental abilities.
Playing with a child in first seven years of life is essential and brings him closer to the parents.
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?Second: What is the meaning of educate him one seventh
Play with him one seventh then educate him one seventh then be his friend one seventh
This is the stage in which there is teaching and discipline and stating right and wrong in the same full of play.
The child is not persecuted throughout his life and do not play with him or get close to him then come to discipline him all at once!.
The child must have been satisfied with tenderness, love, affection and playing with his parents.
Playing with their parents and acquiring new skills, the child is ready to receive advice.
And these stages are the beginning of teenage period which behavior of child changes in and for more information about dealing with sons in this stage you can check out: the little emperor for Dr khaled saad el-din
Third: The owner of seven
At this stage the boy or girl does not receive the external factor on their own.
But they have a close friend who takes his opinion, trusts him and shares all matters of his life, whether he is a father or a mother.
Be a helper for your son and daughter and don’t help anyone rather than them.
There is a mountain of trust that allows all sides to reveal secrets, consulting and reveal everything.
Finally, when he reaches the age of 21 he becomes with full manhood and morals or the girl becomes a conscious woman capable of managing her affairs and purely and pious, they have no psychological problems or drops, here we have applied his theory (Play with him one seventh then educate him one seventh then be his friend one seventh) to bring our children to safety.
As we mentioned before we can say that it’s an educational rule not a saying of the prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him ) and some people impute this rule to the prince of the believers omar bin khatab (may Allah be pleased with him) but there’s a similar saying for the prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) he said:” Order your children to pray at seven and hit them for it at ten and sperate between them with beds”. Therefore we learn from this rule that kid not in charge to do orders before getting seven years old but it’s preferable to learn in a funny way
